I'm going to rant for a second. You're probably going to think I'm crazy for a minute.
There was an experience I had a while ago where I was holding Ariana and we were playing, very happy, and someone turned to us and said, "Oh, I think she needs some play time with me!" (Something along those lines) and held out their hands, just a little. Well, at the moment, I wasn't ready to give her up, because sometimes I like to play with her too! I was also worried about sick germs being passed on. I said something noncommittal and hoped it would pass. But this person persisted, and said, "I think she needs convincing," and held out their hands until they were a couple inches away from Ariana. We were in a situation where it would have been rudely distracting for me to say no or explain that now was not a good time (sacrament meeting, anyone?), so I reluctantly handed her over.
Listen, if you want to hold my baby, I get it. She's adorable. And there is just something about holding babies that makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. And most of the time, I don't have a problem with it.
JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO HOLD MY BABY DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO.
Sometimes I want to hold her too! You think she's cute? She is! I know! I helped make her!
Or maybe I'm worried about germs because having a sick baby sucks!
Or maybe I'm feeling a little clingy!
Or maybe SHE'S feeling a little clingy!
There could be a thousand other reasons, but what I'm saying is this - a baby is not public property. Thank you for being considerate and asking, but for some reason, since it's not ok to tell people "no" who don't ask and just think it's a given at anytime (if it is - let me know a tactful way to do it), if I'm very obviously holding back when you've already made it clear that you want some play time, back off. Don't keep asking.
It's not your decision. It's not a given. Respect our space, forthelove.
Anyone else have this problem?
*Yes, I realize this post makes me sound like an insane helicopter mom. I'm not. This happens maybe 2% of the time. Ninety-eight percent of the time, I'm fine and dandy and of COURSE you can play with her! But, Lord help me on those other 2%...